With the constant globalization of new technologies and features, the ’selfie’ has evolved through this process, with features such as geo-tagging your selfie, slapping a cool-to-do filter on it, or completely tweaking your ’selfie’ on apps like Facetune. The selfie is evolving. But how dangerous can this be? When smartphone users have become obsessed with snapping pictures of themselves through out the day, and have influencers like Kylie Jenner, or ‘whomever,’ exemplifying that selfies aren’t even taken by the actual ’self’ anymore and rather, there are people who now take selfies for someone?! I FEEL ROBBED
Before examining if/how selfies can be detrimental to your relationship, let me ask you a question. Are you a narcissist? Basically, do you love yourself so much to the point that your vanity becomes a focal point in your life, and your public display of yourself as a need for attention and admiration? One study has found a link between narcissism and the selfie-obsession in both men and women. Don’t be fooled, these narcissistic folk are not just taking pictures, but also post more Facebook updates about their vanity and life related routines that are in relation to their bodies or images. The downfall to all of this is that narcissists and selfie obsessed millennials will experience trouble in paradise and a recent study found that couples reported a decline in their relationship over the course of the first four years of marriage because the wife was a narcissist and the shocker here…this wasn’t the case when the husband was a narcissist! This new age word “selfie” is not just word of the year but studies are now showing us that posting more selfies may lead couples to ‘heavily’ monitor the other’s Instagram feed, which means they see even more of the attention the photo will get from followers. Excess attention to any subject matter can lead to conflict or ‘drama,’ and potentially damage a relationship along the way.
While social media engagement is inevitable and flourish in our obsessive age, the lesson to take from this would be to consume, produce, and post, in moderation. Take yourself seriously, instead of overdoing it, because relationships are important, especially the one you have with yourself AND nobody likes an annoying Facebook or Instagram user who is ‘uber’ obsessed with themselves!